My 2016 so far!

Hey hey ladies, I know it’s been a really long time. I’ve had so much going on, a mind just wondering here and there. But I’m back! So let me fill you in on what’s been happening.

I started a new role that’s had me tearing out my hair, (it feels good to say hair and not weave haha) and trying to find my feet. It really has been a challenge for me so much so I was willing to give it all up and go back to a role I knew I could do with my eyes closed. But that’s just giving up and not me. So everyday I give myself a quite talk and keep going. Taking lots of deep breaths along the way. I mean if it’s not a challenge what’s the point? I would never grow, I wouldn’t learn new things, I wouldn’t be able to better myself or my practise, so I just got to keep on going. What doesn’t break you makes you stronger right?!

Anyway what else has been happening, I was DATING, you heard me right dating a real life actual guy, really cute too, nice car, good job and did I forget to say very cute. But, but, but, there’s always a but. There were things that just cringed me out about him. And tbh I don’t want my blog to go in a certain direction so I’m just going to stop right there. Well maybe I’ll  name the other things. He seemed so secretive, there was always a reason why I could never go to his place, he would disappear for hours over the weekend and it was either because he was sleeping or in hospital, I mean seriously how many times can a person end up in hospital?! Anyway as much as I really wanted this to work, something inside of kept saying he wasn’t the one. So that came to an end, unfortunately not a good one. But hey that’s life.

I’ve also been spending so much time concentrating on achieving my goals I set out at the beginning of 2016. Trying to make sure by the end of each month I have something I can tick of my list. I won’t speak too much on this, if you want to know more send me a message, and I may write a post on that too.

Now I’ve caught you up with me. What’s new for you ladies and men? I’ve been receiving some nice feedback from men too. How sweet. Lol. How has your new year goals been taking shape? Any new experiences you would like to share? 

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Peace out ladies and guys, here’s to more posts. 

Mid, mid life crisis!

So apparently you have a mid life crisis in your 40s,  well I can officially say I just had one, or maybe it was a panic attack I’m not entirely sure! Although I have been told it was a quarter life crisis, either way I came so close to changing careers and getting myself into 20 grand worth of debt!

I’m not exactly old that is unless your 16 then yeah I am. I can’t be the only single 27 year old who’s stopped to question where their life is going,  what the next steps are and will there ever be a man in my life some point in the distant future. 

   

Well the night I was writing this I had all these thoughts and then some. Am I in the right career? maybe I should of pushed harder after uni to go into what I studied. What if I had done that where would I be right now?  Oooohhhh so many questions and guess what I don’t know the answer and I never will.                                                                                           I literally  just need to focus on the here and now!  Work hard to reach my career goals in what I realised is the career that I love and have been doing for the past four years. But of course play harder. Hehe! 

And the same goes for you, when those horrible thoughts come to attack you, kick them out straight away, maybe you need to sit down and work out a plan for the next year or so, set some goals give yourself a time frame to reach these goals and like me you won't be heading for that dusty vodka bottle!

Im glad to say my mid, mid life crisis was put on hold for another 10 years. Panic was averted, depression avoided, and bottle of vodka grudgingly placed back in the cupboard.

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10 Single girl problems!

So many people coupled up love to go on about how lucky us single girls are, how we don’t have to come home from work and cook a meal for our man, or take care of the kids after a long day at work. And tbh I don’t know about you but this officially bores me. Let me not get started on valentines day all the single ladies crawl back under your stone. It’s as if it’s a sin to be single on that day. Kmt who does society really think they are?

Here’s top 10 bugaboo’s of single life!

* Your so lucky your single
Am I? Am I really? just because I’m not dating and you call that lucky? Please get out my face! So your life is way more busier than mine, so your exhausted most of the time, oh well you knew what you was signing up for get over it.

* Meal for 1, 2 or the army
I don’t know whether this is because of my heritage or what but I have a serious problem  of not being able to cook a meal for just one person, it’s either I cook so much as if to say I have a household full of people or I make next to nothing. I just can’t master this. And if I’m being honest those are the few times I’m bothered to cook, half the time I’m like what’s the point in cooking a sexy meal all for me. Long!

* Sweet dreams
Is it just me or are there some nights, you wouldn’t mind a cuddle, that person to say don’t worry I got you. Even the strongest woman likes to hear this every once in a while.

* Booking hotels
So when I put in a search for hotels I tend to put 1 person because  clearly I’m going alone, but does that mean I want to sleep in a single bed, I’ve never had a single bed in all my life, my mum didn’t see the point in getting one for her weirdly tall child.  So why would I want to squeeze  myself in one while away? Er nah...

* Doing things alone

As a really independent person I tend to do things alone instead of checking people of my phone, married now, just had a baby, has more of a social  life than me. I don’t take the word no easily so rather than hear it I’ll do it alone, and oh my goodness the headache that comes with it. “why did you go alone”, “you no you have friends, you can always ask me to come with you”, and trust me I appreciate  them I do but sometimes I got to do things by myself, I can’t rely on my friends to take every step with me.

* DIY
I have no clue about DIY stuff, my living room walls are still so bare after having my flat for years. Yes I could have probably asked someone to drill a few holes for me but prides a bitch. Lol. Let’s not even talk about my light bulb in my bathroom which has been out for some time now and the council refuse to fix, I’m not being funny but I didn’t ask them to fix such lighting in there. Anyway deep breaths. I’m not going to lie in these situations  it would be fab to have a man in the house to handle these things.

* I'm sick!!!!!
Whenever I have a period, or a migraine it’s as if my life is over I literally  can’t move. And the worse part of this is knowing your actually alone  in your home and if your hungry your going to have to find the strength to get out of bed and sort yourself out. And these are the times the green eyed monster comes out and I think how  lucky these coupled up people are. I had the luxury once of having a guy make me a cup of tea while I got ready for work and seriously it took like 5 minutes of my routine, I was well excited. It’s the simple things with me!

* Coming home and being like.....oh yeah
There’s some days I get in from work or just out in general and I’m like oh yeah I don’t actually  have that poor guy to have a rant to about my day, so I go to the next best thing an old work colleague who’s turned out to be a really good friend,  but boy do I feel sorry for her having to put up with me.

* When you go on lunch and see you have zero messages
Oh my gosh I love my friends truly I do, but when I go on break and there’s no message from a special Mr I’m just like why am I even on break. Of course of late there is no special Mr and I’m actually  enjoying my breaks not spending it what’s Appin some guy asking if he’s having a good day, when what I really want to know from him is can he handle a strong woman and is he ready to commit!

* Bills bills bills

I’m sorry but I can’t be the only one who thinks how much more shoes, bags and nail appointments I could make each month if there was an actual real life living man in my home. This can make me feel some type of way on some pay months. I’m like ok so maybe I’ll  hold of on the uggs and hunters this month then.

But you know what this is my life and I love  it, all the ups and downs just makes me that much stronger. I can can go and do whatever I want without the stress of worrying what to do with my handbag, as some of my friends jokingly call their  kids. And I can order Chinese every night without worrying about teaching my kids bad eating habits! Woop, woop once again single life wins!
However I think I'll be enrolling in a DIY class pretty soon.

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