When Life Gives You Lemons

A very, very warm hello to you all. I've been away for so long and never actually saw myself coming back. But here I am. Ready to share yet another story, about my disastrous love life. Lol

So let's begin! I met a guy as you do, we talked everyday. You could say he lived with me over Christmas. I literally thought for the first time in years, I had found the love of my life. We was even talking about moving in together. 

I was at my happiest, full of so much joy and excitement for the future. 

Until one day things weren't adding up, you know the usual "my phone broke". "Battery died". The excuses were coming in hard, but I kept taking them all.

That's the funny thing about their excuses, even when you know it's a lie you say ok, because when you don't the conversation somehow ends up being about your imperfections. 

Moving on, one day he "disappeared" for more or less the whole weekend. 

Me being me had a number I shouldn't have had. (I'm sure you've all read The Shocking Truth About Crazy Women, if you know, you know) 

So guess what I did? Ofcourse I called the damn number. 

And guess what, it was his damn girlfriends number. His girlfriend of FIVE years. 

Like what the hell, what the actual hell.

I kept the convo with her respectful and went straight to call him. Guess what he ignored my calls, blocked me on WhatsApp, Snapchat, Instagram

and eventually stopped my calls from being able to come through. LMAO

It's funny how I can laugh about it now, because at the time I felt like someone had died. 

My heart hurt so bad, I had no closure, no explanation, nothing. 

I cried everyday for a month. By the second month it was every other day. I still kept going, painted a smile when I needed to. Laughed on que when with friends, I was doing a good job of faking it. 

I bumped into him a week later. He had the cheek to turn up at "my club". You know when you have a spot you like to go to. Well ladies he was at "my spot". 

And tbh he acted like I had no reason to be asking him anything about anything. 

Ok so that's the story. Now what happened next. 

I took up excessive drinking and smoking weed and to be honest I was on dangerous grounds. 

I'm sure it's obvious why the two; the weed, it numbed the pain, clearly the pain was still there but no where near as bad. And it did help me to sleep. However this is not something I would advise at all.

The above picture was taken during the period of me being high and drinking. (I wasn't either of those things in the picture). But I was at my lowest, a mind filled with so much negativity, so much sadness. But you wouldn't know it. 

Social media has taught us, to put a smile on it, and a filter, throw in some hashtags and pretend life is great. And that's exactly what I did. Meanwhile the only person I wasn't fooling was myself the most important. 

Now I don't know what your opinion on my next step will be, but for me my next step saved my life. And tbh I am not exaggerating. 

I went to church. Yep that's right church. Two hours sleep probably still drunk but I went all the same. And it helped, had I not had gone I wouldn't have been able to forgive him. I wouldn't have been able to believe there was and is a future for me. Going to church that day saved my life. 

I started to become more pro active with my life, going to the gym more regularly, you know how hard that can be? Goodness!

I spent time focusing on myself and my goals for my future. Because I had been reminded my life did not end when he walked away from me. 

I opened up. This is not something I ever do. But something I would totally advise. I opened up to friends and family and it truly helped.

I heard their stories, I listened and took on board their advice. 

And tbh just being able to let out all that pain helped. It really isn't good to keep things inside. 

Ladies this was one of the most painful experiences I have ever been through. But I came out of it stronger than ever. 

I have so much more to say on this but don't want you all falling asleep on me.

I'll be back with all the wonderful lessons I learnt through this soul destroying experience.

Until then click the link and follow me on Instagram. 

@singlelondongirlsguide

6 Signs He Could Be Mr Right!

Have you ever met a guy and just had this feeling that he could be Mr right! I did and it scared the life out of me. Don’t get me wrong there were a few things that made me think he’s like every other guy but there was a lot that made me think this could be the one. And it terrified me. 

 
It scared me because it made me think I would have to grow up, because there's something about being in a proper relationship after being single for so long that makes me want to hide under my duvet till the end of times. Has this ever happened to you?

How do you know?

1. He would ALWAYS get out of the car to open/close it for me 

2. Walk me to my door, never expecting to come in
3. Plan dates based on things I said I loved
4. Ask me about specific parts of my day that I may have mentioned before hand. (Not the usual how was your day)
5. Never argue back, not even when the cray cray was at level 100% 
6. Made it clear there was only me and no one else.

Now I’m not saying this means he’s the one that is going to take me to the alter....but he sure did seem better than some others I had come across. You know the type, every single day is how was your day, these times you had the most serious conversation about some stuff that was going to happen at work and rather than ask how it went, you get that basic generic "how was your day", that he probably copied and pasted to all his chicks.

One last thing I will say on this topic is, you may feel the things I listed aren’t important or mean nothing  but take some time to reflect on the person your talking to/seeing. How attentive are they to you? Do they make you feel as though it’s just you? Or is there so much room and reason for doubt?
Would love to know your thoughts on this topic. 

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Peace out SLGG!